- Is this negative behavior something new or recent?
- Has your child had ample time to adjust to a new provider or setting?
- Is there a change at the pre-school that could be causing this negative emotion, such as a different teacher, a change in classroom, new rules, or even different peers?
- Is there a change in your child's life that could be causing this emotion?
- Does the center's philosophy and learning style match with what your child likes? Just because a center has a good reputation doesn't mean it is the right choice for your child and your family.
- Has there been any type of incident that has occurred at the pre-school that could have impacted your youngster in any way?
In addition, have a heart-to-heart talk with your child about pre-school, and why he is feeling the way he is. Ask for specific emotions and encourage discussion. Once you discern that the emotion is not due to the child simply wanting to stay home to be near family (a common reason) and have ruled out any true safety or abusive situation, you can develop a better plan of action. Work WITH your child's caregiver as a partner to try and get your child to enjoy pre-school and his home-away-from-home environment. Be nurturing but firm in explaining that his "job" is to learn and grow at preschool while your job is to go to work, but that you will be back together after the day is done. Then, be sure to be consistent in your approach and not give in to the wails. With time and lots of love and praise, the "hates" will typically pass. If not, you may have to consider the possiblity that a change in care may indeed be the answer.